Take a self-discovery tour of yourself, really see who you are and what actions/choices you have been making that are shaping your life. Decide who you really want to be and start making choices of actions that align with that person. As you align your actions (ie: your thoughts, words, emotions, expression and actual doing) your life will begin to take a new shape. It is about taking responsibility for yourself. You have complete Free Will, no one is controlling you and no one is making decisions for you. If you want something different then what you have then you must make different choices.